There is a saying that “when you point one finger at another, there are three fingers pointing back at you.” Put another way, Jesus admonished his followers to “not focus on the speck in your brother’s eye while ignoring the log in your own eye.”
This is called “Projection”, something we have all learned to do in times when we don’t want to admit to ourselves and especially others our shortcomings and other perceived character deficits. I readily acknowledge when I do this and how it has gotten in the way of honest, objective self-reflection. As we mature in this life, we are wise to become aware of what we are really saying when accusing another of being a control freak, passive aggressive, unfaithful, or lazy; just to name a few. Projective behaviors can be deal breakers, relationship busters, and self-sabotaging.
This article puts projection into lay terms and allows the reader an opportunity to self-reflect how he or she projects perceived personal shortcomings onto others in order to avoid confronting personal realities.
The Every-Day Warrior engages in acts of self-examination to root out self-sabotaging projections and to face personal realities with self-compassion and humility.