When Others Criticize

This was featured in Scientific American Mind, a great online journal of evidence based information about our very complicated minds.

When I listened to this podcast, boy, did I ever have to take heart, especially about the one person out of 100 that is only even slightly critical of me.

Implied here is that it takes loads of practice to rewire beliefs that we “should” care about everything others think and reroute the circuits to change “the rules” inside our heads.  It does require the skill of mindfulness and being aware of our reactions to criticism.

It’s only 8 minutes, and Dr. Hendrickson has a great presentation.

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-not-to-care-what-other-people-think/?WT.mc_id=SA_MB_20160413

2 thoughts on “When Others Criticize

  1. Good morning, Dr. Sutherland — The “only one person out of 100” caught my attention…FIRST, but then the “It’s only 8 minutes” closed the deal for me. What a fascinating eight minutes it was with Dr. Hendrickson; she has the voice and delivery that’s perfect for podcasts!

    So what did I learn without taking notes (the note-taking is a function of my deeply intrapersonal learning and introspection)? Not to give away the nifty range of advice Dr. Hendrickson provides in easy-to-understand-and-apply form, our authority to “take on” or “take in” or “set aside” or “summarily dispatch” or to “categorically dismiss” or to “mentally ingest…and then regurgitate” is quite vast!

    And here’s the kicker: it’s ALL under the control of our minds…mindfulness…consciousness! It’s interesting to me that as we grow as children, through adolescence, our senior teens, and young adulthood we ACTUALLY SURRENDER BITS AND PIECES OF OUR MINDFULNESS not because we must, but because we instinctively desire to fit into a world that long ago established its own geographically and culturally-defined models of “healthy minds and socially appropriate behavior.”

    So the next time you hear one of us “bending minds into unconsciousness” know we mean no harm, although it’s a way of warning others that there’s a need to re-think mindfulness if it’s not something that’s perfectly automatic in you!

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    1. Louise Sutherland-Hoyt

      Hey John! Thanks for this great response. Your insight and wisdom are most welcome and I look to see more of your insights. In the context of Developmental Trauma, it is fair to say that whatever potential there may have been for mindfulness and presence in early childhood through our teen years was summarily undermined by virtue of simply surviving in a world of chaos.

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