I’m going to start off by stating clearly that I have come to really dislike the term “Addiction” and here’s why. As research has established incredible advances in our understanding of the brain, our retention of memory, and how our past is invariably present in all our actions and relationships, I see that “addictions” are really “attachments” to behaviors that result in the perception that one or more of our 5 basic needs are being met. This applies to both “chemical” and “process” addictions.
What’s a process addiction? It’s a compulsive behavior such as gambling, sex, spending, eating, cutting or other forms of self harm that interfere with the quality of relationships at work, home, and community.
What are our 5 basic human needs? Here they are.
The premise of Glasser’s theory is that when we perceive that one or more of our basic needs are not being met, we attach ourselves to behaviors, the consequences of which provide the perception that the void is being filled. Much of what we do to meet these needs is productive and constructive. It’s when we do things that interfere with relationships, health, and livelihood that the behavior becomes self-defeating and compulsive.
The correlation between childhood complex trauma and behavior attachments is unmistakable.
Try on these statistics and think on them for awhile.
|Meet criteria for depression||52|
|History of physical abuse||43|
|History of emotional abuse||77|
|Other addicts in family||59|